Red Lips Real Talk
A fun show with Latin Flare. Hosted by Jasmin, Jessica Monica, Maritza and Deibys. Long time friends that talk about real experiences and tell great stories that we hope will inspire, empower and give you those feel good vibes. Joined by occasional guests, sharing stories from listeners and although not licensed therapists, they offer unsolicited but heartfelt advice.
Red Lips Real Talk
Nostalgia Vibes
In this episode of the Red Lips Real Talk Podcast, hosts Jasmin, Jessica, Monica, Maritza, and Deibys reminisce about their lives growing up during the 90s. They reflect on the strong bonds of friendship, the impact of music and culture, and the freedom they experienced without social media. They share stories about fashion, clubbing, and experiences that shaped their youth. The discussion also touches on the recent controversies surrounding hip-hop artists, which have tainted some of their nostalgic memories. The hosts emphasize the importance of friendship, community, and the shared experiences that defined their formative years.
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Hey chicas, welcome to Red Lips Real Talk podcast. I'm Jasmin.
Speaker 2:I'm Jessica, I'm Monica.
Speaker 3:I'm Maritza and I'm Davis with a Y. Get ready, somos Latinas from South Florida.
Speaker 2:Bringing you real talk on life, love and everything in between.
Speaker 4:Time to get real, dale. Hey everyone, welcome back to Red Lips. Real Talk, hey, maritza. Hey everyone, welcome back to Red Lips, real Talk, hey, maritza, hey. So today we're diving into some nostalgia. So just the other day I was going through my photo albums Jessie and I was going through the pictures for the book you were putting together for Maris's 50th and my daughter was looking through them. She started asking me tons of questions like who's this? Oh my God, is this Jasmin? Is this Jessica? Is this Monica? And we had like tons of discussions about the pictures that I had and it just flooded memories, the great memories that we had when we were at that age the nineties.
Speaker 1:I know we've known each other since. Well, I met you technically in middle school, but we weren't friends because you, you didn't like me most people don't like me when they first meet me. But yeah, jesse, you had a beautiful idea. You had mentioned let's try and collect pictures, that's right. Yeah, so we can do like a little collage for maris's 50th birthday. And I didn't realize how many pictures I had and I was like, damn my tits look good.
Speaker 4:Well, it really got me reflecting on how music and culture shaped our childhood.
Speaker 1:I mean, I know, when we got together with Maris, we went to that restaurant and it was a brunch place which I highly recommend. It was in Fort Lauderdale. It was called Cafe Bastille. Was it Cafe Bastille, which they have some in Miami as well? Beautiful place. What was the girl's name? Again, let's give her a shout out. Goodness gracious, she had like this little accident. Marissa was like are you from Trinidad? And she was like yeah, and she was like I knew it. Anyway, we can't remember her name, but she was lovely, she was, and everybody showed up. And another friend of ours, maria, showed up who lives in another country. She's an expat and I don't know. Maris just came in and she was like I love you guys so much and I want to thank you for the sisterhood, and she was just like you guys don't know how much you mean to me, and I was like Maris, like what we have. Maris didn't like me either.
Speaker 4:I just want to. It takes time, it takes time, it takes time.
Speaker 1:It takes time to love me, but anyway she's the first one in the crew to turn 50. And looking back at those pictures I was like fuck man, I'm so, I'm so proud that we grew up in the 90s. Bitches, oh yeah.
Speaker 5:Absolutely.
Speaker 1:We're the ones that grew up with no social media, so nobody knows what the fuck we did.
Speaker 5:Nope, listen, for me, like those days just being part of the hip hop culture and the beginnings of it was an outlet for me. It was a time, you know it was, we were all teenagers, right, we were teenagers and I just remember, like the music, that was just such an important time and for me it just spoke to my heart, it spoke to my soul and it was like we had that connection with the music, the lyrics, what it said, it represented, like it was like frozen in time and it's just nostalgic. All you could do is just listen and just think back of like those times where you were free or responsibility oh my God, yeah, and all we had was each other and we just loved to just listen to music, dance. We were not looking for trouble, we were just out to just. And you know what I loved about the music is that it helped us always want to be with each other.
Speaker 5:You know we all had our things going on at home. You know we had I was going to say we were immigrant parents struggling, surviving. All they were trying to do is just keep us alive, put food on the table, a roof over our heads, and don't go out and go and get pregnant and get in trouble. That was on my time, that was on me.
Speaker 1:My mother would be like yes, please.
Speaker 4:El. That was how me my mother would be like El Diablo está en la calle. The music was there for us. Yeah, the music was there. The culture was there for us, it was there, monica pobrecita your mom.
Speaker 1:may she rest in peace. I loved your mom. She was an amazing woman. Monica wasn't allowed to hang out with us.
Speaker 5:No, no, you know what we would do.
Speaker 4:What we would do is show up to her place and hang out with her until we were kicked out of the house.
Speaker 2:I used to go along for the ride, that's right. Whoever's house they were getting ready at, I was there just watching everyone get ready, and then, when it was time to go, I'd drop me off, or we'd hang out in the parking lot outside and we'd come see you before we head out.
Speaker 1:Aww that's good. Your mom was always looking out for you. Well, you were the only girl. She had three boys, so I get it. But Monica would be like have fun.
Speaker 4:Her brother was looking out for her too, though yeah, he was like no, she can't come. No, exactly, she can't go.
Speaker 1:Okay, let's go. But Deibys, you couldn't hang out with us because you were three, four years younger.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 1:And you know, when you're 16 and you're 12, 13, you know.
Speaker 3:Well, yeah, I was still hanging out and probably doing things I shouldn't have been doing, you know.
Speaker 5:But you know. But you know what was beautiful about that era? First of all, there was no internet. No, no social media Right, and we would call each other yeah Right, we had our beepers. Yes, what are you going to wear? That's right, everything was about that. What polo shirt color?
Speaker 1:are you going to wear? If you're going to wear purple, I'm going to wear turquoise. That's right.
Speaker 4:Or Timberlands and my baggy clothes.
Speaker 5:Yeah, I mean, it was the whole era, was the fashion on point, it was a vibe, I don't even know how I could afford those clothes.
Speaker 1:Well, we had nicknames and listen, yeah, I already said it in another podcast, so I'm going to say it again I grew up in poverty. So, my friends and listen, this is the truth. Like many times I was so humiliated that I didn't have money to go out and you guys would be like Jay, let's go. And I'd be like I can't, I can't. How many times did Jessica and Maritza and other friends would be like I got you, I got you. How many times did my friends tell me no, you're coming, I got you. And I'd be like no, no, no, I don't, you know. I'd be like, don't worry, I got you. And those are the things that for me, like you don't know this friendship. You don't know what we had and, yeah, my nickname was no loot, but whatever it was oh my God, listen, maritza had a piggy bank.
Speaker 5:I was.
Speaker 4:Who had the five gallon water?
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, I know those. Those are very popular.
Speaker 4:That's what her and I used to rate. I would be like our gas money and we pour that shit out.
Speaker 5:Feeding everybody for Taco Bell.
Speaker 3:Taco Bell, we had the paper. That was always the place.
Speaker 4:Yes, and I always knew your order.
Speaker 1:Jessica would be like let me get a bean burrito with extra cheese.
Speaker 5:No, red sauce Extra sour cream.
Speaker 1:No, but no joke, that shit was fire, bro At 3 am For 69 cents, bitch.
Speaker 5:Yes, the Supreme ones were like 79 cents and we didn't care how long we had to stay on that line, because it was a hangout spot. We met so many people on that line. No, because it was a hangout spot.
Speaker 4:Yeah, everybody would just be like we met so many people on that line. We did. We made new friends in that line.
Speaker 1:It's true, and you don't remember when we would have days off in Broward, but they were still open in Miami and we would go to HML Hialeah Miami Lakes High School. Those boys were fine as hell. That's when I should have known that I was going to be with a Cuban. I'm here like Armando grítame for five minutes, I like it. Just in case you don't know, that's Pitbull's real name. Oh my gosh, Pitbull if you're listening.
Speaker 5:I lived in Miami. I never knew that, armando.
Speaker 1:Perez, I'm sorry, hello Me either. Okay, armando, he probably went to HMO.
Speaker 5:Oh, probably. Yeah, he probably did. He grew up in.
Speaker 1:Hialeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know if he would have just yelled at me for five minutes. I would have been like I love you.
Speaker 2:If you have the yearbook, we'd like you to send us a picture.
Speaker 4:Right, Can you sign my yes?
Speaker 1:those were the best times. The best times, I mean. I would never replace one second of my life for that the chance. Like the moments we shared together as friends, it was special to me.
Speaker 5:And you know, what I love too about that time is like we just like we were all on survival mode and we just hung out.
Speaker 5:We just loved having fun and listening to music. And I do remember and I think this was like really important about that time is that the radio was something really important during that era because it made you feel like you were part of a community. Because, like, especially when, like how I was bringing up Monica the other day, like in New York at least I know we're in South Florida right now but there was a time where it was like in Hot 97 with everybody knows Angie Martinez yeah for sure, and it was like the battle of the beats that was fire, yes, and you had to call up and it would be like the hottest songs and the only place that you can hear it would be on the radio, yeah, yeah. And you felt like you were like united with everybody else, wherever you were. You could be in New Yorkork, wherever, but it just felt like you had to be somewhere listening to that song that was gonna come out, yeah, and the best too was like recording your songs, like you'd wait, you wouldn't.
Speaker 3:You know, like people really appreciated mixtapes because the djs, yeah, and like the effort that went into it, just yourself though, like if you made them. You know, my husband is like big in music so he would make mixtapes all the time, but you would have to wait for the song to come on the radio, oh yeah, and want to like to record it. You know, remember, like those times I, I love that, and then before all that napster yes, before that came before all that shit, all that.
Speaker 5:Like you had to buy an album to hear the whole album. You would just hear one hot song on the radio. That's right, but you had to get the album to hear the whole shit you know who was the master of the mixtapes maritza's mom okay, let me, let me correct.
Speaker 4:Um, it was actually my dad, but I was. I was gonna say before you said that I was gonna bring up that, yeah, I grew up around that. I grew up around music because my dad owned the record store. That's right. My parents, my parents, owned the record store. That was one of our hot spots, yeah, so if you're out there and you know about Musically, that's right, it has a history. It has a history. Yeah, that is so cool.
Speaker 1:It was a big part and it was a big part and Jasmine Jasmine used to work there for a little while. I used to work there for a little while. I used to work there for three months for 50 bucks a weekend and I was like bitches, I got money. $50 in the 90s was a lot of money. Yeah, it was. It's on me.
Speaker 5:And all the hit, all the hot music, like it was just we would get all our hot tracks like everything, everything that just came out, although, even like the DJs, funkmaster, flex, new stuff that would come out, it would be you guys with Saleh.
Speaker 2:My brother was a DJ, remember, and your brother too, martha. Yes, yes, yes, they were DJs. Vinyl records, oh, that was so much fun.
Speaker 4:Well, he was around too during that music. You know, like when we had the music store. He knows all about it.
Speaker 2:My brother was a DJ. Like he used to DJ at clubs. He has pictures with Mark Anthony. That's cool. That's cool, awesome, it was awesome.
Speaker 1:You know, the first time that I ever heard gin and juice was with your mom.
Speaker 4:My mom yes, my mom used to jam Her mom was the coolest person I had ever met.
Speaker 1:And she's like Yasmim, come here, we're going. I had ever met. And she's like Yasmín, ven acá, vas a hacer esto. And then all of a sudden you hear like, with so much drama, and the LBC is being hard, it's kind of hard being Snoop and I'm like, señora, ¿qué es eso? Snoop Dogg.
Speaker 4:Yes, my mom knew. Yes, she knew, and I, so this day I talk about artists that existed back in those days, Like you know, like they're still around, and she's like I know, jose, jose Quinez. Oh my God, that is adorable. I love that. You know what?
Speaker 5:memory I have, like when we went to the beach and the song from Wu-Tang Kareem came out like the whole album and we wanted to know the lyrics to that song and we had our cassette player that we kept rewind playing. Rewind playing and we were like what were they saying? Cash rules everything around me.
Speaker 4:Cream get the money.
Speaker 1:Dollar, dollar bill, y'all. Well, see, that's the thing. Now you go to Google what are the lyrics of? Oh yeah, you guys, if you're young and you're listening to us, thank you. First of all, thank you, but you don't know. Like the struggle. What did he say? Rewind it, jessica, rewind, I know, rewind it. He said cash rules, everything around me, oh, cream, get it Cream. That's literally what we went through. Write it down, Write it down, write it down. That's right, that was such a good song.
Speaker 4:That's how I learned to study. I'm kidding.
Speaker 5:Serious, because that's how I used to learn lyrics.
Speaker 4:I used to write them down and as soon as I finished the whole entire song, I knew it by heart. Yeah, I didn't have to go back and read it. Yeah, because I wrote it all down, memorization. So when I I started school, college, yeah, yeah, yeah, more so right, and that's how I learned everything. I would just write everything from word to word and that's how I would remember.
Speaker 5:Who was like for you guys. Who was like for you guys, like the hottest female hip hop artist ever. There's a lot Lyricist, Lyricist. There's so many. I know mine.
Speaker 1:It's hard for me to say Well, me to say one, but if I'm going to take it really, really way back, I think the one, well, there's two, there's two, I'm going to have to say Salt-N-Pepa and Queen Latifah for me.
Speaker 5:Queen Latifah's there. She's definitely one. They were the.
Speaker 1:OGs and they were-.
Speaker 3:UNITY, I was just thinking that in my head UNITY. That's the unity.
Speaker 5:Who you calling a bitch, I know, oh, you know what I'm going to take it more back. Ladies first, ladies first, Ladies first. Ooh, ladies first, ladies first.
Speaker 1:The thing was is that I'm not trying to bash the music of today, because every generation has the music that they like, and there's stuff they're playing today that I like, but it is much more sexualized, let's admit, and I think that I don't know you don't remember little Kim, girl?
Speaker 5:I was just gonna say so. I'm gonna say, like, regarding little Kim, like the two people for me was little Kim, cause she was raunchy, but she was, yes, but she was also straight up in your face and I love that about her. Would I play her in front of my kids? No, no.
Speaker 1:You got me there, you're right. You're right. I was thinking about more of like.
Speaker 5:Lauren Hill is, to me, the best lyricist ever.
Speaker 3:She had a song that I did the whole, like you guys are saying, the Cream song that I played over and over again and it was from her Miss Education album. I played over and over again and it was from her Miss Education album. I can't remember the name of the song Best album but I would try to sit there and play it over again because I wanted to know Was it doo-wop? No, it was. I'm like I'm getting old. My brain is like not working anymore. I got to remember this song. When I think of it, I'll tell you, but it was like I remember that point. It was a little bit later and I would rewind it and rewind it, and rewind it because I wanted to memorize it.
Speaker 5:You'd be imitating Al Capone, I'd be Nina Simone and deprecating on your microphone yes, she was poetic poetic is the word to describe her.
Speaker 1:I'm so glad you brought that up, because Lauryn Hill is very special, oh yes, absolutely MC Light, mc Light.
Speaker 4:yes, I love her. She just came because Lauryn Hill is very special. Oh, yes, absolutely MC Lyte, mc Lyte, yes.
Speaker 5:I love her. She just came out with an album. Yes, did she, did she? Yes, she did Really Wait a minute. Wasn't it this year that they celebrated the 50th year anniversary of hip hop? Yes, they had the whole length concerts going on. They had Nas, they had. They had Lauren Hill performed with Nas. I saw that on YouTube. That was beautiful. It was like lengthy.
Speaker 1:I'm really glad that you brought up Lauren Hill because, for whatever reason, I wasn't thinking of her when I started dating my husband. We're like a little over 10 years apart, so it makes a difference and he would be like, oh, like, what do you listen to? And I would listen to what he listens to. And like, oh, like, what do you listen to? And I would listen to what he listens to. And then I put a Lauren Hill CD, because at the time we put CDs in the car, right, my gosh. But anyway, no streaming services. None of that stuff even existed. You had a big, big book. Yeah, we had like a book with CDs. Thank you for saying that, because it's true. If you still have that book with CDs, my hat's off to you. I have them.
Speaker 4:I threw mine away. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:I regret throwing mine away. Que locura, that's so funny, but anyway, so make a long story short. He's like oh, I don't know who Lauryn Hill is. I said, do you mind? He was like no, play it, play it.
Speaker 3:And I put it come, is it?
Speaker 1:That's the one, that thing, that thing that thing, because we're going to get copyrighted if we play the real song. We don't have that money. If you want to sponsor us, anyway, we'll stop singing. And he was like wow, I love it. And he was just like I think that's the first time that he was like holy shit, like hip-hop is fucking great, you know. And it opened.
Speaker 5:It opened up many other artists, you guys don't remember, like the clubs that we used to go to, yes, like well, because hip-hop back then was underground, yeah, like, yeah, they wouldn't pay. Uh, play it in like mainstream, no, they wouldn't. You would listen to hip hop at night. As a matter of fact, let me tell you what a memory I have of hip hop, that the first time I ever heard of it Takes Two, it Takes Two to Tingle right, was before Hot 97. I lived in New York. I was like 12, 11.
Speaker 5:That song came out in like 1988, almost 1990, right, and they only played hip hop at midnight. So I would be in my bed and I was a kid, I would be in my bed with my radio playing, and that was the only time that I can listen to rap back then. I'm telling you, if somebody is doing a documentary of hip hop, that's what they're going to say, because it was only, it could only, and even Yo, mtv Raps, yeah, only came out at midnight. Don't you remember listening to it? It was at night, watching it at night, because you couldn't play that stuff. You couldn't play that kind of music during the day.
Speaker 1:Well, I'm glad you brought that up, because I don't remember the first hip hop song that I remember and I was really little and that was you. You got what I need, but you say he's just a friend.
Speaker 5:May he rest in peace.
Speaker 4:Oh, baby you you know my son he's 20. I put him on to that song when he was younger and he used to jam to that song in his car. Yeah, and I'm like, oh my god, that's so to that song when he was younger and he used to jam to that song in his car. Yeah, and I'm like, oh my God, that's so funny that you know he liked it, for back in the day he used to always play that song.
Speaker 1:I mean, I think for me everyone's, and there's so many artists that I admire Nas. I mean, come on, nas, but Tribe Called Quest for me. Hold on, hold on. I hope we don't get copyrighted but I got to do it.
Speaker 5:I don't care, but this is for me and I'm a big Busta Rhymes fan. Okay, oh yeah, oh yeah, ooh, rush to rush and attack, and attack.
Speaker 1:Inside. You know I did it, and attack Inside.
Speaker 4:You know, I didn't.
Speaker 3:Man, I still look so different right now too. Have you seen him? Yeah, no, I haven't. No, oh, wow, he like bulked up Big, thick, muscle guy, because he was always like skinny dude, you know, oh, busta Rhymes.
Speaker 2:Yes, girl, he was skinny, he was a Google Glasses commercial.
Speaker 3:He was a tall, thin guy, you know.
Speaker 2:Okay, now he's like swole Ray-Ban, the Ray-Ban commercial with the glasses, like he's always doing a concert, is he?
Speaker 5:I didn't know that I loved Busta Rhymes because he just had this way of like really using his mouth and like his vocals yeah, but With Chris Brown you have to play it.
Speaker 1:Okay, yeah. So Busta Rhymes did a song with Chris Brown in like the earlier 2000s. Look at me now. Who does this? Oh, I know what you're going to say hey, hey, hey, let's go. I'm feeling like I'm running and I'm feeling like I gotta get away, get away get away.
Speaker 3:Better know what I don't and I won't ever stop.
Speaker 5:Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. I can do that. I can do that. Hold on. That's what I'm talking about with Busta Rhymes. He knows how to do that. He perfected that.
Speaker 5:There was an interview that I heard him and he perfected like his way. He was like this is going to be my thing and he had, he perfected, that's his thing. Sure, oh yeah, seriously, he, I mean seriously, he's got his thing. And then come on like then you got to go to like Jay-Z, then you got Nas, then it's like, then that's like a whole other era.
Speaker 4:What about?
Speaker 3:Methamon, oh yes, methamon and Wu-Tang and all that, but Methamon.
Speaker 4:That's sexy right there. Yeah, he still looks. Good, he still looks good.
Speaker 3:He still looks good. He still looks good. He was hot then and he's hot now.
Speaker 1:Yes, but you know what Method man has been with the same lady.
Speaker 5:He's a family man. He's a family, thank you. Who would have thought?
Speaker 1:that Cash rules Everything around him.
Speaker 5:Karim get the money. Dollar dollar bill. Oh my gosh. That just brought back memories. How can I be down. Oh, oh my gosh. That just brought back memories. How can I be down? Oh, weekends, do y'all remember that? Oh my gosh, I remember, because I had pictures with method man. Okay Met, oh my gosh, that was. There was some serious weekends, bro, everybody Seriously. Some serious weekends here. Let me tell you, our generation in hip hop started that whole memorial weekend here in South Florida. It was during that time.
Speaker 1:South Florida was known for those festivals and that's where you showed up, and then all those cute boys from HML showed up.
Speaker 4:Thank God for South Beach Fifth Street.
Speaker 5:Fifth Street. I don't know if they still do this anymore. Thank God for South.
Speaker 1:Beach, fifth Street, fifth Street, fifth Street days, that's where they used to have the. I don't know if they still do this anymore, but back in the days you would just drive your car down Fifth Street yes, what do they call that? Cruising? Yeah, and you would just play the music in your car.
Speaker 5:Yeah, I remember.
Speaker 1:Deco.
Speaker 5:Drive, you would just flirt with, like the people you just hung out.
Speaker 1:The younger people. They are missing out on that.
Speaker 5:Right yeah.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I was clubbing back then. I just recall about a memory that being on South Beach I'm not sure if it was on how Can I Be Down Weekend, but it was with Monica and we were crossing the street. We were about to cross, oh, oh, and these guys on these scooters were coming through, so we like stopped before we crossed and I just saw an arm with the tattoo Mike around his arm and me and her kind of like looked at the arm. We looked up at his face and we looked at each other. We're like, oh shit, that was LL. I was just going to say that's LL Cool J. I remember you telling me that, literally, if I reach out my arm, I can touch him.
Speaker 4:That's how close he was. I did touch him. He was about to turn the street.
Speaker 3:Only his arm. I took a picture with him. I met him at a club.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, we made love in this club, oh no, in this club.
Speaker 5:Was it with you that we saw Biggie Smalls at the Underground? That was me. Was it with me? No, yeah, we saw. Biggie Smalls at the Underground. That was probably one of the only concerts like that. I don't even remember after that. There's a lot. I don't remember. There's a lot.
Speaker 3:That's all we're going to say. I don't remember after that.
Speaker 5:But apparently I do remember a lot. That's all we're going to say. I don't remember after that, but apparently I do remember a lot.
Speaker 1:I mean, those are the things that we did. We saw the Fugees, we saw Nas, we saw Tribe Called Quest. Tribe Called Quest, we saw Bustin' Rhymes, the Fugees, the Fugees, of course. Thank you for saying that.
Speaker 5:And they were small venues. Yes, that's what I'm saying, but that's how underground it was. Remember the yard? Were you with me for Mad Lion? No, where.
Speaker 4:Where was that? That was man. I can't remember the name of the club. You remember the yard?
Speaker 5:Was it the yard? Was it called? No, the junkyard. The junkyard. Thank you, it was the junkyard that was also on South Beach.
Speaker 1:Our hotspot was South Beach and all of a sudden it'd be like we switched it up. Ting-a-ling-a-ling School bell. Ring the pom-pom, knife and fork with five foot, don't blink Okay.
Speaker 5:Do you know what I remember about that time? Jasmine wanted to perfect the butterfly. Yay, I can still do it bitch.
Speaker 1:School bell ring, knife and fork with five foot don't blink.
Speaker 4:You still got it. Let me see Jasmine. You still got it.
Speaker 5:Okay, Okay, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh shit, if my husband could see me now, he'd love me again, love me all over again. I love you baby, I love her again.
Speaker 2:I love you, baby. I love hip hop. I love hip hop. But back then house music was my shit.
Speaker 4:Yes, what House?
Speaker 2:music, house music, all night long the Jungle Brothers.
Speaker 5:That's another podcast.
Speaker 4:That is another podcast, because I was into it too Jungle Brothers, it was the same era. Yeah, it was the same era. You're absolutely right, girl, I house you girl, I house you you and my husband.
Speaker 5:You guys don't know, you youngins it was the time of our lives, man.
Speaker 4:I have to say that we totally I cannot say we had a great youth. I cannot say I mean we had a great youth.
Speaker 1:I mean Davies. I know you were like 12 and 13, but I would have let you hang out with me.
Speaker 3:I would have put you in the trunk of the car. Believe me, I was hanging out at 13 with 16-year-olds, really. Yeah, davies got stories too. I want to hear a story. I'm not telling any of my stories because, like I mean, I don't know. There's not. I don't know. I mean the same thing going to clubs. I lived in fort lauderdale but I would head to miami club, not at 13, that was 93. I mean, I still have the rest of the 90s, 96. I was 96, yeah, 98, 99. You know I was 18 19 everywhere.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I was definitely hanging out with older people. Yeah, I shouldn I shouldn't have been, but it was fun. Nothing bad happened. You know, I always look back and go man, god was really watching me, because the places I was at there I mean I could have really gotten in trouble.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I say that a lot, you know.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, you're right, it's not like I was doing bad things. It's just one of those things where it could have been just the wrong time, wrong place. I agree, I was always, like just always watched over. I guess that's why I was so grateful that we were always all together, right? That's one thing I was always, and I feel like it was like that back then. Now that I look at it it was.
Speaker 3:I was always in big groups too, Like it was always big, yeah, like if it was with the guys, it was like a big group, you know, a bunch of girls, a bunch of guys together and again, it was just to, like, hang out.
Speaker 5:Yeah, it was just to hang out. We weren't looking for trouble. That's what I really loved about it.
Speaker 3:We were just looking for a spot to hang out, listen to music. We looked like we were in a gang, but we weren't, but we weren't.
Speaker 1:Nickname besides no loot, it was the cock blocker. Well, I heard about you at the club, girl. Yes, because my mother was always like no, tienes que tener cuidado, yasmin, con tu familia, las van a violar and I'd be like we're going to get raped. And I was like, no, you can't go out with my friend. No, where are you going In a corner? You're going in a corner with my friend to do what about science? I don't fucking think so, the cop.
Speaker 5:Or no. Hold on. Jasmine would be the first one to be like I want to go home and I would be like bitch everybody run.
Speaker 4:Right, but that would be usually. It would be because we would meet people and she would be like this is not happening, and then the guys would be like what the fuck is wrong with your friend.
Speaker 1:It's time to go home and they'd be like, oh, that's just what the fuck is wrong with your friend and I'd be like, oh, that's just Jasmine, like she looks out for us and she's like yo, like your friend's a lot and I'd be like cock blocker. I just remember.
Speaker 5:I can. So see this, I so I'd be like she's coming. Oh my god, and here's the shit. I was the driver, so that's why I would fucking be like run right, right, because you weren't ready, I don't gotta go home yet and then, when she got her, license and she started driving.
Speaker 3:Who wanted to?
Speaker 5:drive with Jasmine Nobody.
Speaker 4:Pero nadie nadie, no.
Speaker 5:but you know, what I loved is that at that time Jasmine is in Miami now, but at that time I was the only one who lived in Miami drove everywhere and broward from like Miramar to Pember Pines, to freaking Plantation, to Fort Lauderdale, to then go to South Beach, come back and drop everybody off. That's how much I wanted to be with my friends and we all wanted to be together.
Speaker 1:That's a lot and you're welcome that. Nothing ever happened to you.
Speaker 5:I got stopped by a lot of cops on 95, but always like, oh, I'm so 40. Yeah, I just came from Miramar. I'm just like I ain't police officer. What did I do? What did I do? What did I do? Oh my gosh, it was the best, best times, the best times, man, absolutely.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was great. So what stands out to you the most when you think of growing up in the 90s, jessica? What stands out? One thing like the most.
Speaker 5:You know what? That I, as much as like I was going through some really hard times as a teenager, not fully understanding what was going on at home because my parents were struggling financially big time and they were just trying to hold it down. And you know, also just being a teenager and not I wasn't getting along. I remember I had a lot of communication issues with my dad. He was just trying really hard. You know, now as an adult, I obviously understand a lot, a lot and I love my parents so much for just like really doing the very best that they can. So during that time I felt like I wasn't alone. I always had friends around me and I had an outlet. I had something that I could just just people around me and just going through this. Whatever we were all going through Sometimes I don't even like we weren't really talking about it too much, you know we were just. I know that somehow we were all in our own little troubles and we were just going to trying to make it through.
Speaker 1:I agree with you because, not that I knew that you were going through that, but we were all kind of going through our own thing and what saved? I get emotional but I think for me I can only speak for myself but, like, what saved me during some very difficult moments of my teenage years was my core friendships with girls and, I don't know, women friendships are on a different level.
Speaker 5:Yeah, they're very special and actually you guys taught me how to be a good friend. I have this conversation a lot with. It sounds silly, but with my three-year-old sons I want them to know what is a good friend. Three-year-old sons, like I want them to know what is a good friend. You know a good friend is loyal, a good friend you share with and you listen to them and you spend time with them. I think that's important, a friendship, I mean, and that's a whole other topic. But I feel like I learned through all of you guys like how to be a good friend and what it takes to be a good friend, because to have to have this type of friendship that we've had, you know, and we've gone through 30 years, we've gone through so many chapters and seasons in our lives that it's even more meaningful now, at the age that I am, that I can look back and be like wow, you know, like I have friends.
Speaker 1:Friendships require time, love, love, grace, grace, understanding, and I appreciate that.
Speaker 4:yeah my daughter envies my friendship with you guys same. Yeah, she's like you guys. They put the stake up high because you guys have been friends since high school and you know she looks she's like. You know it's hard nowadays to keep that friendship going for so long. It's it's hard. And so she looks at us and she was like I love it. I love that you guys have been friends for so long yeah, that's really sweet so what about you, deb?
Speaker 2:what stands out the most when you think of growing up in the 90s?
Speaker 3:um, I don't know, I I guess just, I know we've said it multiple times, but like not having social media really sticks out to me, like I felt like I had my privacy. I felt like I really did, like whatever happened it was because of whoever I wanted to tell or whoever was there at the moment. I mean, people always talk, things got out, but it was just different. It was just different. You know, I feel like I just remember that time, just like not having to worry about all this social media stuff, you know, and having real friendships because of that, we had more community.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, yes that's so great that you said that, of course, this is probably why we have such great friendships, right right that still last this long.
Speaker 1:Deb, I'm really happy that you said that, because everyone makes mistakes. Oh yeah, everyone says and does things that they regret. But today, when you make a mistake, you are canceled or treated like you're a teenager you make, you're still growing up, you're still trying to figure out what, what to do, right, you say I have said so many stupid shit in my life, but nothing has been recorded Only what I say now that I admit to that.
Speaker 3:And kids have that choice nowadays. It's just that they choose to be on social media, they choose to put everything out there, they choose to share every moment, they choose to be out and record everything and then you don't know who's going to post it, because there is no privacy. That's what they mean by that they also.
Speaker 2:Social media is actually pretty much dictating what they do, what they wear, how they act, how they behave, because they have this feeling like they have to follow. You know that they want to be like that because that's what's popular, right, so it's pretty much dictating how they should do things or how they should live their life.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I just feel like if you're out and you do something, anybody can be recording you, and then it can just go online. But that's what I mean. Like there's no privacy, you're out doing something stupid. Back then it's like it was only all the people that were there that knew no one's recording you and posting it on the internet. Right, you know what I mean. Like that's so you like what you're saying, like keeping up with, like all the latest stuff, and like you trying to fit in. Well, I felt like our way of doing that, though, was through the music and the videos and seeing the artists, and because there's always style, there's always fashion, you know, but I think it's just it's more pressure, because that's the word of the social media, and it's like it's hard to try to be yourself sometimes, because you're so worried about what everybody's thinking what about you?
Speaker 4:Maritza, for me it was kind of the same thing what Jessica was saying. I was a single parent, it was just my mom. So we struggled a lot and, as I mentioned before, we had a music store at the 183rd Flea Market Musically, if you know about it, what's up? But you know I laugh about it and it's cool and all that. We had fun there. But I did see a lot there Shootouts, I've seen people get shot. We struggled a lot with people trying to rob us. I mean multiple things. So I seen a lot. So having you guys around was definitely an outlet for me just to forget about all the stuff I was going through at the time. That was, you know, just stuff that I just wanted to forget about. Right, yeah, and being with you guys just made everything better. Yeah, just felt like it was a freedom yeah, we gave each other.
Speaker 4:That's definitely the word I'm looking for, like I just felt free and not alone. Yeah, definitely, and it was a time, too, that I connected with my brother also, so that was good, yeah, and I think so, like we talked to each other, we spent physical time together, yeah that I don't see that happening in today's time, and that's not as much.
Speaker 3:That was beautiful and, like you said, freedom. That's kind of like with the privacy that I was saying like you were just more free to be out and not worrying about who's going to see you, what's going to be done, who's going to take a picture, who's going to post Not like we're celebrities, but you know what I mean. It's like everybody's got the phone out recording somebody. Now yeah, yeah, and everybody can just post whatever they want.
Speaker 1:And they didn't answer their home phone. Oh yeah, I was just at the same house.
Speaker 5:Listen, Do you remember Like I remember my mom would be hanging out with ladies and my mom would be beeping.
Speaker 4:Beeping me, yes, and she'd had the code, the mom code, and I was like I remember Can you imagine how stressful for a parent, though. I remember picking you up, my mom and she's like, oh shit, I used to get like one million and one quid.
Speaker 5:I had that I'm like, oh my God, jessica the Latin mom, the full-blown Latin mom, with no filter or anything. She wanted to know everything. She was not letting me get away with anything.
Speaker 2:What about you, jasmine? What stands out the most when you think of growing up in the Navy?
Speaker 1:Oh gosh, for me it's very simple, the fashion, the amount of time that we spent on our look, for me, it was the fashion, the sisterhood with you girls, which we've already discussed at length, and the music. Honestly, it's like the music, the fashion, like I remember how many out, like what are you going to wear?
Speaker 5:What are? You gonna wear like your hair on the side the whole period?
Speaker 3:yes, oh, you're gonna put the little like the hair in a bun. You're doing the chonga lip. Yes, the red lips. Did you guys get the red um brown lip line? That I did, but we used it as a lip liner. It was a maybelline two-pack.
Speaker 1:I mean, look, the sisterhood is on a different level the fashion, the music, the no social media, davies, just like you mentioned, that was the freedom, yes, the freedom of that. It was a special time. Yeah, the clubs, the going out to like the underground clubs, all of that stuff. And again, it was the sisterhood. It was that if I didn't answer the phone and I disappeared for 24 hours, three girls knocked on my door, of course, and were like are you okay?
Speaker 4:Oh, you used to knock on my window because I used to nap too long. I like to sleep.
Speaker 5:Hello, don't you guys remember going to Maris' house and picking her up? Listen, can I say? Can I please say this story? Hello, Can I say?
Speaker 1:that yes, we can.
Speaker 5:Yes, we can. Yes, we can, monica, you've been voted out.
Speaker 1:Here we go. So we have a friend named Maris.
Speaker 5:It doesn't matter, monica, her parents don't even know what a podcast is, but she knows we're mentioning her in the podcast, of course.
Speaker 1:But listen, jessica was the only one who had a car was a Nissan Maxima. Okay, I was responsible for one job. I had one fucking job to get the fuck out of the car. Knock on Maris's window.
Speaker 5:Maris would go start the car yeah, I had to turn off my headlights and the music and we had to roll up in silence.
Speaker 1:Maris would jump out of the car and I'd be like run bitch and she'd run for us, run for us. She'd jump of the car and I'd be like run bitch and she'd run, Run for us, Run for us. She'd jump in the car and like 25 minutes later we were in South Beach. Wow. And then when?
Speaker 3:we dropped her off.
Speaker 1:it was like and her parents, and then she had to be back and she would go in bed like a fucking angel. She looked like a freaking angel and her parents were like no, Maris, Lena, vas a desayunar. Ay, mami, un poquito más. She just walked in.
Speaker 3:I was too scared of my dad to do that. I snuck out of my friend's house. But I never snuck out of my house. I was scared of my dad. Yeah, for sure he was very strict, but I understand. Looking back, I'm like I totally understand when my dad would like flip out on me. You know like leaving, having guys pick me up with my girlfriends, like you know, just people rolling up with like three cars. We're all going out, get in. Like you know, my mom grew up very like like she wasn't allowed to do anything so she wanted me to have my freedom. But my dad was like no, so but I look back now, having kids, and I'm like, yeah, I shouldn't have been going out half the time when I was going out, so I was too scared. It was a good balance. It was a good balance. It was a good balance, for sure. And it's funny because my mom always said, which was the like be careful, don't get pregnant. That was always the line.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that was the line everybody yeah so I hear you ladies say it and it makes me think like, yep, yep, all our moms said the same thing, yeah but my mother took it to the next level.
Speaker 1:My mother thank you. Yeah, you, yeah.
Speaker 3:I literally thought that that's why they didn't let you out.
Speaker 2:Sorry, yeah, monica, what about you? Well, of course, friendship. I I love my friendship with you ladies, but the music is in my soul. But you remember, back then it was like you had a relationship with these artists. Yeah, so the anticipation of the album dropping?
Speaker 3:Yeah, waiting in line to buy the record for the CD, or when your friend got it and you're like you got to hear this. Oh my God, yes.
Speaker 2:Waiting for the video to drop.
Speaker 5:Getting home at four o'clock to watch the video Yep After school, that was just like it was, you know it was the vibe, but it's like what you were saying, monica, it's because it felt like a community, yeah, and I just, I don't know, to me it's just that was a time that it doesn't exist anymore. Like to me, I don't feel music like it was during that time. I really don't. I mean internet, social media, whatever, whatever, but it's not the same for me. It's not the same.
Speaker 1:I agree with you and that's why it hurts me with what's going on today and I don't want to bring it down, but it's like no, I want to talk about it.
Speaker 1:I do you know there's a lot that we don't know. So I'm trying to be politically correct. There's so much we don't know, but obviously, Puffy, you hear and you start thinking about what he's being accused of and you start thinking about Jay-Z, and you start thinking about yeah, and you start thinking about Mary J Blige and all these accusations and it's like gosh, fuck man. Total 112. Total 112. Little Bob like Justin. Bieber, even though that's not from our time it goes deep, Little Bob like.
Speaker 4:Justin Bieber, even though that's not from our time.
Speaker 5:It goes deep, right right, it's a rabbit hole.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we don't know, and I don't want to get too deep into that rabbit hole because there's so much that we don't know. But it's tainted it for me and it's yes, it was one of the best times of my life that now I'm like. I'm like, can I even I can't listen to R Kelly no more. Now I can't listen to Puffy. What's next Biggie?
Speaker 5:Well, and I had just really touching really quick what Puffy did aside, because this is, this is what's happening now he changed the whole scene of hip hop with his music, with his style, because back then it was like baggy jeans, it was rugged, it was the streets, it was the shoe that was like pop out. You know all that. But he came in like and brought a little elegance to it Right in like and brought a little elegance to it right now music, jessica, was like let's get suited up, like we're looking at this harlem style, like it's all you know, jess. He literally created j-lo.
Speaker 1:Yeah, he literally created j-lo, he gave her her name, yeah, and it's like what about jay? Blige too. I'm not sure about that, but I would. I know they had some connection, but I mean like the music itself when we're talking about hip-hop.
Speaker 5:Yeah, like that, and I understand the whole JLo thing, but, like, to me, he did change the image of hip hop. Yeah, like, from the underground he brought it to mainstream Right, he was the one who helped it to come to mainstream and he brought that, that, that spice, that that different Flashy, yeah, the whole flashy, like you know, suited up and like, right, you know, he brought a different look to it, you know, and especially with Biggie Smalls in the picture and then R&B, he really helped that whole R&B genre, exactly, you know, to rise and he brought it to where it was and, um, but I do, I my heart feels like contra, like it's conflicted, because to me hip hop is, is a love, it's a love, it's a love story, um, from my childhood, yeah, and I feel like it hurt, conflicted, and it hurts me because I feel betrayed me too.
Speaker 5:I feel betrayed by, specifically, this artist and it saddens me for the hip hop industry because it's like you do feel.
Speaker 1:I feel like that, I feel like that, yeah, you know, I mean I'm not trying to make a joke. What I'm gonna say may sound funny, but I'm really not trying to be funny. Even my mom, who's 84 years old. We were talking on the phone and she was like Jasmine, did you hear about Moth Daddy or P Diddy? I know it sounds funny because you know, but even even people who are not in that, like my mom, doesn't know anything about that culture or that music. And even she knows because it's just everywhere. And I just was like she goes pobrecito si le hizo algo, if he did something to Justin Bieber. Like you think about those things. Of course, we don't know anything right now it's still developing, but it's just like man like this. This is a guy that I personally loved his music. I thought he was so cool. Like you said, he brought it mainstream. Like you know, it's all about the benjamin's baby and little kim, you know, and all that. And now it's like, if you listen to it, well, have you shame?
Speaker 5:have you listened to any of his songs? Have you wanted to? No, I haven't. I haven't wanted to. No, how about you guys't? I haven't wanted to no.
Speaker 2:How about you guys? No, I'm a little disappointed, yeah, but what about the other artists? Because he has his hands in so many things?
Speaker 3:Oh, that's the thing. It's not just his music, it's like everybody. Like I said, Total 112.
Speaker 5:You may hear things. He featured a lot of music. I was a big Total fan.
Speaker 3:I still love the music, but I hear it and I can't help to think he was in that. You know what I'm saying. He was part of that.
Speaker 1:But if you really think about it, even back then we may not have, it was rumors and we may not have thought about it, but even then they were saying oh, Puffy has something to do with Tupac being murdered, and they had always planted that.
Speaker 3:Well, I heard his family is reopening the investigation since this all came out. I heard that too, and did you hear R Kelly's daughter came out saying some stuff too? If he has?
Speaker 1:anything to do About R Kelly? If he has anything to do, Puffy, with the death of Tupac, I don't even know. I don't know what to believe anymore. Everything is a lie.
Speaker 4:Right yeah.
Speaker 1:Everything is a lie. That's why it's a rabbit hole.
Speaker 3:The sad part is that so much of this goes on that just doesn't come to light. And his shit is coming to light. He's. I don't mean, I have no facts, but you know how it is in. You know that celebrity world. You hear about it all the time. It's been for decades.
Speaker 1:Well, davey do you remember? In our last podcast, you talked about P, did he Le? Hiciste el mal de ojo. Que bueno, shortly after he got arrested.
Speaker 3:Listen, I don't know what he's guilty of. I feel he's definitely guilty of something, a lot of things. What he's guilty of, everything that they're listing, I don't know, but I just It'll come out.
Speaker 1:It. I don't know, but I just It'll come out. It's right, it'll come out. All I'm going to say is the 90s were the best, one of the best decades of my life. It has, I hold it with nostalgia, happiness, great memories. It's been a little tainted with certain artists, but at the end of the day I still think positive things about it, because of the sisterhood, because of the fashion and the music and everything in between.
Speaker 4:Yeah, and he wasn't the only music, I mean, he wasn't the only music, he actually came started. I mean getting big towards the end of the 90s, like 95, I think I was saying like 96, I'm not sure 90-something like that. I mean before that, we still have Gangstar, we still have the Blues, we still have Gangstar, we still have the Roots, we still have Farside De La Soul.
Speaker 3:I mean I can keep going. I love the Lost Boys. Warren G yes, I thought he was so cute.
Speaker 5:I did. I thought Warren G was cute. I had that on my list. I had that on my list.
Speaker 4:I mean the list goes on, so he was towards the end.
Speaker 5:So he didn't ruin that song. A lot of NWA, dr Dre, nwa.
Speaker 1:Dr Dre, the one that went whoa, whoa yeah, arrested Development.
Speaker 5:That's Arrested Development.
Speaker 1:Whoa, yeah, whoa yeah, whoa, yeah, whoa, yeah, whoa, yeah, whoa yeah.
Speaker 5:Ah, and everyday people.
Speaker 3:I do love the fashion, though, like just even like the whole 90s, because you know I was younger in the beginning and as we got older it changed and even like to me, like I remember, even the supermodels like supermodels were a big deal back then. You know you had like your top models and that was it. And like the fashion I loved, I loved all that.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, but nobody has been able to touch cindy crawford. No, naomi camp. Yes, claudia shipper. I mean, the list goes on, the list goes on.
Speaker 3:no, you got, you gotta get on, and on, and on, and on, on and on and on and on.
Speaker 1:They were the most gorgeous supermodels.
Speaker 3:They had that special on TV. I forgot if it was like on Showmax or Netflix, I don't know what it was, but it was about 90s top models and like behind the scene, what they went through, things like that. They got them all together again. Oh yeah, I saw the preview.
Speaker 3:I think it was Hulu, maybe it was hulu, yeah, I don't remember, but it was good yeah so stuff like that, when you say the fashion, just all of that getting into, like the baggy stuff and everything the fashion has come around because, yeah, we're in the baggy era again.
Speaker 4:Yes, right now, with the wide leg jeans and all that. My daughter's all into that, yeah. So sometimes, um, I think, she came out with a pair of jeans and I was like, wow, those are really baggy. And then she, she, when that time, when I was going through my photo album, she was like you, telling me that I'm wearing my jeans too baggy. But look at you in these pictures, mom, I know.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it was a different type of bag. Yeah, I'm like um yeah our jeans weren't up to our waist, you know, they were just like regular mid or they would hang a little though right, yes, yes and even like when you had the tighter jeans, as it got you know later into the 90s and into the early 2000s, yeah, you had like the little hip huggers, a little short tops, right.
Speaker 1:I remember like the daisy dukes, like I love the day, yeah, I wanted to just wear like like barely there shorts with like little like cute sneakers and crop top, but Maritza was like what are you wearing?
Speaker 4:Yeah, I wasn't into the Daisy Dukes.
Speaker 1:I was in the beginning. I'm going to wear a championship t-shirt and baggy jeans, yeah, and Timberland boots, and I hid that body for four freaking years. I hid my body for four years and I regret it.
Speaker 2:Well, back then, you know, growing up four brothers, I was just wearing their shit.
Speaker 4:I did the same. My brother used to shop for some nice ass clothes Ralph Lauren, I mean, like all the polos and all that and I used to take all his clothes.
Speaker 2:But then I come here and I'm in high school for one year here hanging out but not really hanging out, hanging out, with y'all watching y'all get ready, and all girly, and this, and that short, this short that you know I'm like okay, okay. So I kind of changed my style wearing skirts, wearing boots, Monica, you were a little hottie, she was a little hottie.
Speaker 1:Yes, I have the pictures we're going to post them on our we're going to post them on Red Lips.
Speaker 3:She wasn't allowed out. The little hottie wasn't allowed out. I wasn't your mother knew.
Speaker 2:That's why my brother used to get mad Let her hang out with her friends, she's going to come home pregnant. I'm like, yeah, that's that helps. That's why she won't let me out. I used to beg him.
Speaker 4:Can you please let her come?
Speaker 5:with us. I remember we all used to, because we would end up going out to hang out with him. He would come with us. Yeah, he would be like all right bye.
Speaker 2:That's messed up.
Speaker 3:Yeah, oh.
Speaker 2:Monica, but when I was back in New York. So I have a younger brother too, yeah, but he's a boy, he's a boy, so he can go outside. I can go outside to a certain time, but I had to stay in front of the building. Right, right, those were in front of the building, but those were the days, monica Yelling out the window. Okay, I got to go. Bye.
Speaker 5:I got to go out the window. Okay, I gotta go, I gotta go. But I love that time. I you know what. Those are memories that I have, too, of my childhood growing up in new york.
Speaker 2:But thinking back now, like back then, I was like, oh, I hate my parents, I hate my life. I had a little boombox cassette player and I would, you know, graffiti my name on it and then I wrote I wrote I'm a lockdown. I was like writing things at it on my lockdown. But looking back I'm like I understand why they did it, because almost everyone in my age bracket in that neighborhood was doing crazy shit yeah, popping out babies left and right. Like I understand why they did it, right, right. But back then it was, you know terrifying.
Speaker 5:I don't know about you, but like I remember growing up in New York and honestly and even well, even here in, like South Florida, my parents, like neighbors, took care of kids, like they looked out for each other's kids. I remember I loved riding my bike and I would go around the corner. I could only go down certain streets, right, I could only go. Right, don't go down. I grew up for those of you who don't know, I grew up in Yonkers and the Y-O, y-o, y-o, yeah, and DMX I was going to say DMX, mary J, mary J Blige and there was a street you couldn't go down. And I grew up on Broadway and you couldn't go down Lawrence Street, don't go down Lawrence Street. And the neighbors would look out and they would be like yo veo tu hija por aquí, and everybody would be looking out for each other's kids, yeah, yeah, and I love that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the housing projects. We had the five Karens downstairs. It was a neighborhood watch. They would sit at my mom was part of that. She would sit out there and they'd be watching. And then, sure enough, oye, yo vi a tu hijo haciendo esto y lo otro mira, no hagas eso.
Speaker 2:yo maricoma your mom, bro, listen, I don't know. But even my brothers too, like when I okay. So I came here for a year and I had to move back to New York, but I was always, every chance I got, coming over here for long weekends hanging out with you girls.
Speaker 2:Right, I remember that Chilling back then, you know, because I was allowed and I came to see you too, yeah, and I would go back home and my brother would be like what were you doing at Club Somersault? What were you dancing with Somersault? And I'm like, what are you talking about? Who were you with and who was that guy? They had friends there because you know, it was those long weekends and everyone had to go to South Beach for the long weekend. Oh yeah.
Speaker 5:That's right, that's right.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, they would be like yo. I saw your sister Damn it, but it was. I loved my childhood. Yeah, I don't regret it. I loved every bit of it. All the trials, tribulations, everything. Yeah, it was just. It makes me. It made me what I am today Absolutely.
Speaker 1:You know that's a beautiful thing. They were looking out for you, yeah for sure.
Speaker 1:You know. But, jessie, when you said DMX, it made me remember something many, many years ago, when the Super Bowl was in Miami, we were in South Beach. It was me and my husband Well, he was my boyfriend at the time and he didn't know shit about hip hop, but I was introducing him to hip hop. I was introducing him to hip hop and he had he already knew who DMX was and who Puffy was, because I was teaching him hip hop class, hip hop class. So so we're in South Beach I have to remember which Super Bowl this was, but whatever. And we're walking and my husband goes Jasmine, it's the Rough Riders. And I look and it was like, and it was literally the Rough Riders, and it was DMX and Puffy and all the Rough Riders, and my husband's like it's the Rough Riders. And I was like, oh my God, I'm so embarrassed.
Speaker 5:That reminds me of what was the chick from the Rough Riders Eve Eve. Yeah, I liked.
Speaker 4:Eve. Who's that girl? Did she? What was the chick from the Rough Riders, eve?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I liked Eve who's that girl La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la. Is she just from a book?
Speaker 5:Did she? Did she just come out with a book?
Speaker 3:No, she has a baby, she's a mama. Didn't she marry like a prince? No, guys, she did.
Speaker 5:She married a pretty wealthy guy Not, but he has a title. He does those cannonball what do you call those Cannonball races around the world races? I'm not sure what he does.
Speaker 1:But yes, monica mentioned she wrote a book and she did, and the reason I know that's true is because there's an expert in the book that she says that she was drugged and Janet Jackson was the one that saved her Came into the room and was like get water, get Tylenol, get this. It was like a mixture that got her. Came into the room and was like get water, get tylenol, get this. It was like a mixture that got her out of it. And they were, they were gonna do something to her. Oh my gosh. Yes, so that's what I'm saying. I don't mean to bring it down again, but there's a lot of shit in the hip pop culture that's coming out now because the bravery of all these women like cassidy and and all coming out and saying what they did Again it taints it, but it's what happened.
Speaker 2:It's called who's that Girl? By Eve.
Speaker 5:She's so beautiful she is very naturally beautiful and she was one of the pioneers to do remember.
Speaker 1:She did that song with Gwen. Yes.
Speaker 5:I was just going to say gave her shit for that.
Speaker 1:She was like no, because this is women empowerment.
Speaker 5:And she was a big fan of gwen and the group that she was in exactly and she was like no, like this girl's hot right now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm hot right now. We you know she's white, I'm black who gives a shit like let's collab. Yeah, a lot of people gave her shit about it, but it ended up being one of her great songs, so I'm really looking. You know what? We should read that book for the book club. Yes, yes, yeah.
Speaker 4:That would be great. Let's do it For sure, pinkies and bitches.
Speaker 1:Who's that girl, eve? And if you want to join, our book club. Read it, and then we will discuss it on our next podcast. Okay, okay.
Speaker 4:But, like you say, so much stuff goes on in the hip hop industry but not only the hip hop industry, it's just the industry, the celebrity industry, that's true. So much goes on that we don't know, yeah, that we don't know. And they go through a lot that we don't know about behind closed doors, and that's why sometimes I think, for instance like Eve, you know they just kind of like disappear and you don't hear from them again, and there's reasons for that.
Speaker 5:Well, you know what I have to say, because I often I don't know if you guys would think about this, but I would often think back like it's got to be hard for a female to be in that industry. Oh yeah, you know what I'm saying, I agree, and I just I don't know like I think about, like Queen Latifah, even Lil' Kim and Nicki Minaj she talks about it too, you know, because they give her a lot of shit, saying that she has ghostwriters, which I know she writes her own shit. I'm a Nicki Minaj fan, actually, because I feel like she gets so much shit that I'm like you know what I mean. She's paved the way for herself and I like her and she stands up for herself as well, and I can't even imagine honestly being in that industry.
Speaker 1:I love the 90s. It was one of the best phases of my life and the best thing that came out of the 90s was my friendship with you. Beautiful ladies, same here and Davies, I would have put you in the trunk of the car.
Speaker 2:We would have brought you everywhere Like in a good way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like in a good way, like I would have just put you in the trunk and when we got to Fifth Club I would take you out. Fifth Street, oh my.
Speaker 2:God. I think it's fascinating how those memories shaped us and those experience gave us a sense of identity and belonging, and the friendships and memories I mean we, they're just not just music no, the friendships are me.
Speaker 3:I mean, I know my friends that I grew up with aren't here, but yes, I want to say my friendship with my friends was amazing and, yeah, I still talk to a lot of them. I'm still close with them. Give them a shout out. I'm to say their names. I don't know if they want me to, that's true. Yeah, I'm not going to start naming them, but now they're going to know who you are. Why didn't you say my name, bro? So to my girls I love you, I appreciate you and you know what I think is essential for us as moms.
Speaker 2:Right, not all the details, keep some of those things out, but so that they can and I know we do, I do, for sure, my daughter is all over it so they can get a feel of how we grew up and how you're saying, jessica, that you show your kids friendship.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I've always been transparent with my daughters Because I just feel like, look, this is who I am and I've evolved. I'm not the same person and that's okay.
Speaker 3:Well, you shouldn't be the same person. You're supposed to grow and change and become wiser and learn from your mistakes, and you know you're supposed to. I mean, I'm classy.
Speaker 2:Now, she's not classy, she's bougie Bougie.
Speaker 1:I've evolved. I have carbonese sauvignon with a filet mignon. I love it. I love you girls.
Speaker 5:Bueno, I love you girls too. Really, this has been a great way to just pass the time and just think back on our childhood and reflect on that. So thank you so much for spending time here with each other, and I love you girls.
Speaker 1:And I appreciate you all Really love it.
Speaker 4:And to our listeners. Thank you for joining us today. I hope you've enjoyed the show.
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