Big Clit Energy™️: Eve Hall on Sexual Confidence

In this bold and empowering episode of Red Lips Real Talk, your hosts get real with guest Eve Hall, a licensed physical therapist, sexual health practitioner, and creator of the award-winning “Please Me” podcast. Together, they break down the stigma around women’s sexual health, intimacy, and pleasure—especially in midlife.

From the 30% orgasm gap to Big Clit Energy, Eve shares practical insights on reclaiming confidence, understanding your body, and embracing pleasure as a source of power. She opens up about her own journey through divorce, self-discovery, and her “orgasm revolution,” while offering honest guidance on topics like pelvic-floor health, perimenopause, hormone replacement, kink, and the art of communication in relationships.

Listeners will walk away inspired to embrace their sensuality without shame, reconnect with their bodies, and celebrate the creative, confident, pleasure-filled woman within.

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Transcript

Oye, my gente, you're listening to the Red Lips Real Talk podcast, where we talk
about life, love, and everything in between. You already know, it's time to get
real. D 'Ale.
Okay, ladies, you know how we love to keep it real around here. Well, today,
we're getting really real. But before we dive in, just a quick head -up, this
conversation includes sexual content and a discussion around kink, intimacy, and sexual health. If you're new to the term kink, it simply refers to any sexual practices,interests, or fantasies that go beyond what's considered traditional. Now let's getinto it. Today, we're diving into a topic that's often whispered about,
sometimes misunderstood, but absolutely essential, sexual health,
and keeping that spark alive at every age. Did you know there's a 30 % orgasm gap
between women and men? That's exactly why these conversations matter and why today's guest is here. We're thrilled to be joined by Eve Hall. She's a licensed physical therapist and health coach and the creator of the Please a podcast, which aims to destigmatize conversations around sex. And remember, if you love this episode, take a minute to rate and review the show. Your feedback helps women find the space, join the conversation, and feel seen. Welcome, Eve. It is so nice to have you here with us. Thank you so much for having me. This is so exciting. Tell us a little bit about yourself. Absolutely. So, like you said, I'm a licensed physical therapist. 
I treat sexual health conditions, which a lot of times people know as the pelvic
floor. But I feel like the pelvic floor is such an abstract concept. A lot of
people don't even understand what that is. So I like to say that I treat sexual
health conditions such as erectile dysfunction, decreased vaginal sensitivity and
dryness, painful sex, which is a big one for women, premature ejaculation,
et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. And also, I am a mom of two, and I am
polyamorous, I'm bisexual, I'm a Latina. So I am a proud member of all of those
communities. And I like to talk about, you know, women's empowerment and how we can help each other to lift each other up. I love that. What inspired you to become a sexual health practitioner? So interestingly, I was a pediatric physical therapist for most of my career until I got divorced and I used to live up north and I moved down to Florida where I'm based out of now. And there weren't very many pediatric positions available. And so I started, you know, doing geriatrics,
which is very common in Florida, and I decided to specialize in the pelvic floor.
At the same time, I was going through my own sexual revolution. And I was,
you know, in the dating world again, in my 40s, just having a great time and like
exploring and learning, you know, what really turns me on, what really, you know,
makes me happy in terms of relationships and my sexuality. And so I really plugged into that and I loved treating my patients and having conversations with them.
I realized that this was really my niche. You know, I really enjoyed helping people
in that arena because it really brings you joy. When you have a great sex life, it
brings you And if you have a condition, you know, a sexual health condition and
suddenly it's gone or it's diminished, it just makes the person so much more
confident, so much happier. And so I really felt like I found my niche.
And so I decided to start talking about it. And so I created Please Me Podcast.
And that was sort of the beginning of it. What kind of topics do you cover in
your podcast? So I talk all about sexual health conditions. I also talk about
relationship issues as it relates to sex. You know, sometimes people have different,
you know, libidos in relationships and how to deal with that. I talk a lot about
communication. Communication is so essential in relationships. Because if you're not sharing your wants, needs, desires, fantasies with your partner, guess what? You know, oftentimes people look outside of their marriages or relationships to find those things that they really want. And so you really need to be having these
conversations with your partner, if that's something that you want to explore with
them. And so, you know, I think it's just super important to have these discussions.
So I talk about that. I talk about kink. I talk about ethical non -monogamy.
Sometimes I'll have people that are from the LGBTQ community and we talk about our experiences. I am late to the game in that arena. I only discovered that I was
bisexual after my divorce. So, you know, having conversations about that with people has been really fun and eye -opening because really there are a lot of people that are late to the game. Right. I interviewed one author that didn't really come out until her 60s. Wow. And she does erotic literature. So, you know,
I interview authors. You know, it always relates to sexuality or sexual health.
I know you talk about the orgasm revolution. Yes. Tell us a little bit about that.
So the orgasm revolution is something that I started a couple years back when I
first started the podcast. And it aims to bring awareness to the orgasm gap. And
you mentioned the orgasm gap in your introduction. The orgasm gap is a phenomenon where in heterosexual relationships, anywhere from hookups all the way to marriage and every relationship in between, women are having less orgasms than men. And when I realized that that was an actual statistic and wasn't just my experience, I was like, why doesn't everybody know about this? And so I wanted to bring awareness to the orgasm gap. I just think it's so essential for women to understand that your partner doesn't know exactly what buttons to push. You need to tell them. You know, don't assume that your partner's going to know how to pleasure you. You need to explain what your turn -ons are. So it's really important for us to empower ourselves through education and awareness. And so the orgasm revolution was bringing awareness to the orgasm gap. And in order to join the revolution, You know, anyone can be part of the revolution. But what I suggest is that you go to my website, pleaseme, dot online. I have a t -shirt that says orgasm equality, and you get one of those t -shirts, and you post yourself wearing the orgasm equality t-shirt and saying, I've joined the orgasm revolution. You can post it wherever you want. And basically saying, I've joined the orgasm revolution, this brings awareness to the orgasm gap and the orgasm gap is x y z and you explain it in your own words and it is just a way to sort of expand that information outside of just my platform to people all around the world yeah i think it's essential because it's not a statistic that is well known right right exactly exactly and i think that every woman needs to know this Yeah. That's important. Yes. Exactly. And, you know, this doesn't happen in gay relationships or in kink relationships.
And that's another thing that I feel like we can really learn from the kink world.
Because in kink, you talk about everything that you're going to do ahead of time.
You plan the scene. That's what it's called. The scene. What do you like? What
don't you like? What are your hard limits, your soft limits. You know, what's the
safe word? What, you know, if we need to stop, what are you going to say? All of
those things. And then, you know, just basically talking about your desires and your wants and needs. And, you know, oftentimes in heterosexual relationships, we do not have conversations about this. And it's really a pity because, you know, our sex lives can be so much better than they are if only we were open to having these conversations. Well, I think it ties into a lot of growing up, right? Because we,
that's not something we talk about, especially as Latinas, right? Because our parents were not going to sit down and have a sex talk with us, or let alone, even as women tell us about menopause, perimenopause. These are things that we kind of like learn on our own along the way. Along the way. As you experience it, right? And there's so much that I know now, having done the podcast because I've talked to so many amazing women that I wish I knew when I was just getting my period, you know, what could help me, you know, what could help regulate me? Why was I having so much pain? Right. And you're absolutely right. In Latino culture, you know, unfortunately, you know, it's a very patriarchal culture. And oftentimes the man is protected, even when they're doing something wrong. And, you know, I come from a history of sexual abuse. Five people abused me from the time that I was five to the time that I was 11. And we weren't talking about that either. You know what I mean? And we need to be talking about these things. We need to protect our children and we need to stop protecting the perpetrators. Yeah, that I agree. That does happen a lot, especially in the Latino community. In any community, really. But, you know, in our Absolutely it happens and it's it's really a terrible thing but even to growing up like if the men step out of the marriage or it was still like oh you know you have to stay you know deal with it it's a you family you have kids you got to stick together yeah so yeah I could see that and I know um you talked about big clit energy and I I heard it in one of your podcasts, but that kind of ties into the orgasm gap. So Big Clit Energy is actually the confidence that a woman has in her sexual life. And if you're having an amazing sex life,
you're going to have confidence. And that confidence I like to call Big Clit Energy,
just like Big Dick Energy, right? And when I was researching the woman's equivalent of big dick energy, I looked everywhere and all I could find was that women could also have big dick energy. And they had named a couple of people that had, you know, women that had big dick energy like Beyonce and Rihanna. And I was like, they don't have big dick energy. They have big clit energy. The woman's equivalent of the penis is the clitoris. And it is an organ almost the same size as the penis.
It's just internal, so you don't see it. A lot of times people just think of it
as the nub on the outside of the body, but it's actually a very big organ, and we
don't give it enough credit. And so I definitely wanted to create a female
equivalent, and so I trademarked Big Clit Energy. And I just think that it's a
concept that many women should embrace so that they can embrace their sexuality. I mean, we are so shamed from from the time that we're little girls, especially as Latinas, right? But really, in the patriarchal system that we live in, we're shamed for our bodies, for not looking like, you know, society says we're supposed to look.
There's just so much shame put on us, you know, and it shouldn't be. There's
nothing wrong with your body. Your body's exactly as it should be. It's beautiful
today, tomorrow, yesterday, every day. And so I like to erase the shame and I like
to really empower women to embrace their sexuality because it is the creative center of our bodies. It is where we create. We create life and it's also the creative
force of our entire body. So when you are in touch with your Bicklid energy, you
are going to be in touch with your creative power in the world and be able to
create the life that you want. Wow, that makes sense. Yeah. And especially because these conversations, you're saying it, like you're talking about it, and because I'm not used to it, I could feel myself kind of like getting embarrassed. Like, wait, but it's true because it's not something that is talked about enough. We're too embarrassed to talk about it. So that's why I think this is very important because it is a very important conversation. Absolutely. I mean, and that's what my show, Please Me is all about, is destigmatizing these conversations, conversations modeling these conversations. And so I know you listen to a couple episodes. I like to do a role play at the end of my show. And the role play is all about modeling
conversations that are hard. And so this season I'm doing conversations about the
ick, what gives you the ick.
And how to have a conversation with somebody else about what's what's icky that
you're the sensation that you're feeling and it doesn't necessarily have to be like
a partner um we did one where we talked about unsolicited dick picks oh you know and how that gives me the ick yeah you know and like how to tell somebody like please don't right don't and you know don't think that that's something that i want because i don't you know we're especially when you're just sort of starting out in a relationship and you're getting to know somebody and then they send you something like like that. It's like, what the heck? That came out of left field and it's
totally an ick. Like I know what a penis looks like. I don't need to see
everybody's penis.
And I always just wonder like, why do men love their penis so much? Like, why did
they have to show it off like that? Take a picture and send it? Yes, it's like,
no thank you. you. No, thank you. Are you assuming that I want to see it? Yeah,
you should ask first. I mean, it's a violation, honestly. Yeah. It really is. It's
like walking down the street and someone flashing you. That's violating. And so is
getting an unwanted dick pick. I'm sorry, it is. And so I wanted to have that
conversation. So, you know, that was one of the role plays that we did. It was
funny and fun. But also just bringing awareness to, you know, things that we should be talking about. Right. How would you recommend someone getting comfortable with their body, per se, to be able to have these conversations with their loved one?
You know, because you say it's important to discuss what you like, what you don't
like, you know, so that they know, because obviously not everyone's having an orgasm because they don't know how to get you there. So how do you have these
conversations with your significant other? How would you recommend going about that.
So I think starting small is good and then building on that because every
conversation is going to get easier with time. And so the first one doesn't have to
be something so specific. Like, I like you to rub me in this way right here and
then don't stop for like 20 minutes, please, you know, or whatever. Like it doesn't
have to be so specific. It can be like, hey, you know, I was listening to this
podcast and it was, you know, they were talking about, you know, talking to your
partner about what your turn -ons are. And, you know, we've never talked about that.
I would love to know, like, your top three turn -ons, and I'll tell you mine. You
know, would you be open to that? Starting small. Right. And then building on that.
How do physical changes during perimenopause and menopause impact sexual health and pleasure for women, in your opinion? So many ways, actually. The body changes so much during that time. And unfortunately, when you go to the doctor, they're not always ready to give you the support that you need. You really need to do a lot of research on your own. But women's bodies change as men's bodies do with blood flow. Blood flow is something that diminishes over time to the genitals. And so women will have dryness, which is actually the result of decreased blood flow.
Because When the blood flows to that area of your body, when you're getting turned on, the plasma of the blood seeps through the walls of the vagina, the clitoris, the vulva, and it wets you down there. If you have a decrease in blood flow,
you are going to have dryness. Also, when your hormones drop, and estrogen is a big player in this, if you have low estrogen, oftentimes your skin down there is going to become very thin and papery and easily susceptible to micro tears.
And so a lot of women may experience painful sex and will say that it feels like
razor blades are down there and it's because they don't have enough estrogen because estrogen actually creates part of the tissue. And when you don't have estrogen, you don't have parts of the cell that need to be there in order to have normal skin to protect you. So estrogen is essential for your skin to be healthy in your vagina and surrounding tissue. So that's another thing. Obviously, you know, your libido may diminish if you are in perimenopause or menopause. And sometimes people will experience this after pregnancy or, you know, our hormones go up and down throughout our whole lives, right? So it's not always just during perimenopause and menopause.
Also, women who have experienced cancer treatments, oftentimes that will throw them into perimenopause and menopause. So they're experiencing all of these things early on in their lives. So I think it's really important to have these conversations so women understand what changes to expect and how they can help themselves to feel better and feel more like themselves. What kind of recommendations would you have for somebody that's experiencing that? So I love to recommend parlor games. Parlor games is a topical estrogen cream that you can get over the counter. You don't have to go to your doctors. And this is how I started because I had gone to my doctors and said, hey, I need hormone replacement therapy. And they said, oh, no, you're not in menopause yet you need to wait until you're in menopause why why you know your hormones are diminishing over the course of maybe seven eight nine 10 years depending
on like what race you are right right and so why are we waiting for 10 years to
get relief so there are topical bioidentical hormones that you can get over the
counter and i love parlor games i interviewed the um ceo of parlor games on my
show, and she's amazing, and she's really into educating women. And so she offers
topical estrogen, progesterone, and D -H -E -A. So all three of those hormones,
she offers as part of parlor games. I use the estrogen and progesterone. I also,
since I started using that, I'm also on hormone replacement therapy. But I noticed
that when I went on hormone replacement therapy and stopped using the parlor games, I started having symptoms that returned because the parlor games hormones are very specific. You put them on your vaginal tissue and it gets absorbed right into the skin, right where you need it. Right. And so I started having my symptoms return and I was like, oh no, this is not happening. Where's that cream? You know, let me slap some of that on right now because, you know, you want to feel as amazing as you always have. Right. And so I recommend hormone replacement therapy for women, whether they get it on their own or they go to their doctors. You know, I think it's really essential for women to replace their hormones as they diminish. I know you specialize in the pelvic floor. So what exactly is that for people that may not know. Yeah, so the pelvic floor, and that's why I like to call it sexual health as opposed to the pelvic floor, because that's just such a weird concept. It's like, what? So the pelvic floor is basically a group of muscles that are part of your pelvis that hold up your organs. They hold up your bladder, they hold up your, you know, your uterus, etc. And it's very important for those muscles to be strong. 
And just like all of the muscles in our body, as we get older, they start to
atrophy and get weaker. And when your pelvic floor gets weaker, you can experience things like prolapsed bladders or a prolapsed uterus. You need those muscles to be strong to hold everything up. You can also experience things like incontinence. And so it's important for all those muscles to stay strong. So I do treat that area. 
I teach people how to do the exercises. And then I also have a protocol where I
help them to, you know, replace their hormones if their hormones are low. You know, I have a protocol about nutrition and what you should be eating to stay as healthy as possible. There's a lot of different things that go into health. And, you know, exercise is only a small portion of it. Yes, we do need to exercise, but really
nutrition is 80 percent of health. So I'd like to talk to my patients about all of
that. I really do try and look at the whole body holistically as opposed to just
focusing on one area. Can you explain what acoustic wave therapy is and how it
supports sexual wellness for women? Absolutely. So acoustic wave therapy is the gold standard in treatment for erectile dysfunction and its female equivalent, which is decreased vaginal sensitivity and dryness. And I talked about the blood flow issue, right? So blood flow is essential for the vagina, clitoris, vulva to work properly.
And when we have blockages in our blood flow, which happens over time, depending on the type of food we eat, right? The blood vessels in the genital area are smaller than the ones around our heart. So you're going to see issues in that area faster than you're going to see the ones around your heart, for instance. But if you have these conditions, it could possibly mean that you might have a heart condition as well. So I do like to ask my patients if they have a cardiologist, et cetera, especially if they've been experiencing these conditions for a long time. But for women, the hormones themselves decrease the blood flow. So the acoustic wave therapy is a treatment that I do for women and men that increases the blood flow by breaking up the blockages in your blood vessels and allowing the blood to flow.
And also when you get treatments over time, and I usually will recommend more
treatments. Prevention, I recommend six. So, you know, more than that if you have
any kind of issues. Over time, the treatment, what it does is it increases your
capillary formation and capillaries of the teeny tiny blood vessels that go to your
genitals and to go really to any part of your body there's capillaries like that go
to every single cell in your body that's how your body gets nutrition from the food
that you eat it's delivered through the blood and the smallest blood vessels are the
capillaries so when you get this treatment over the course of some time and i
usually recommend one time per week for however many visits, depending on your issues, more capillaries will actually form because of the treatment. That's part of like one of the benefits of it. So you're actually creating more blood vessels to bring more blood to the area. I've never heard of that before. That's interesting.
Yeah, a lot of people don't know about it. And another reason why I love talking
about it, because I feel like people need to know like what they can do to make
themselves better, right? If they're not having the proper blood flow and they're dry as a bone down there, you know, there are things that they can do to help
themselves feel better. Yeah, it's like, it's another conversation that we don't have.
Yeah. And then people go through it and they're just like, well, it is what it is.
I'm getting older. This is what's happening. And they just kind of accept it. And
we don't have to suffer. Right. We do not have to suffer. We can, you know, be
much healthier than we are if only we know about these And unfortunately,
you walk into your doctor's office and then they're like, oh, you're not in perip,
you're not in menipause left yet. Come back when you are. And it's like, no, what
about now? What about right now when I'm not feeling well when my, you know, hoo-ha is like burning and I can't walk without it, like, feeling like it's being
chafed? That's no good. We don't want to feel that way. Right. You know, we want
to feel good and amazing all the time and have great functions so we can have
amazing sex. Yes. I agree. Yes. I agree. Hallelujah to that.
I saw something about juice plus. So what is that?
So juice plus is a product that I like to recommend to my patients, especially if
you don't eat a lot of fruits and vegetables. And the average American eats one and a half servings of fruits and vegetables per day. That is so little, and we need
at least 10. So a serving size is the size of your fist. You can figure out how
much you eat per day. What Juice Plus does is it's encapsulated produce, and it
helps to bridge the gap between what you are eating and what you should be eating.
And it gives you the nutrition of 30 fruits and vegetables in your body every
single day. And so when you take it over the course of a period of time, your
body starts to crave the nutrition that you're giving it. And guess what? There's
something called metabolic re -programming. And it makes you want to eat more fruits and vegetables. It's amazing. People that have never eaten Brussels sprouts, I
remember a friend of mine. I was like, you need to get on Juice Plus. You're not
eating enough fruits and vegetables. And he did get on it. And he called me back a few months later. And he's like, you wouldn't believe it. all I crave is Brussels
sprouts, and I hated Brussels sprouts my whole life, and suddenly I want Brussels
sprouts all the time. It's an amazing, amazing product because it gives you so much nutrition, and then your body tells you what it needs. I know supplements are good, but they say that it's better to actually eat the vitamins that we are lacking.
Exactly, and vitamins are not the same as Juice Plus. Vitamins give you, If you
look at the back of a vitamin container, it will have like 50 nutrients on it.
And you probably get like 1%. Yeah, it's like small, like not that many, right?
You're like, oh, 50, that's a lot. But no, like an apple has thousands of
micronutrients in it, thousands in just one apple. So if you take 30 fruits and
vegetables and you desiccate it and you put it in capsule form, you're giving
yourself the nutrition of so many fruits and vegetables and it just makes your body
healthier from the cell level all the way up. So it helps your skin, it helps your
hair, it helps your organs, you know, it helps the endothelium,
which is the lining of your blood vessels that get clogged up and cause decreased
blood flow. So it is an amazing product. And I like to say it's like an easy
button, you know, like the easy button from Staples or what is it Staples? I
believe. Yeah, I believe it was a office. Okay. I'm like, is it Staples or a
different company? But it's like the easy button for nutrition when it comes to
fruits and vegetables.
Going back to the sexual dysfunction in women, what are some signs that you feel
maybe some women overlook, you know, in that area to address. I think decreased
libido is something that's often overlooked. Like, they're like, oh, well, you know,
we've been together for a long time, so it's not something I think about as much.
Right. That is something that is easily overlooked. I think it's hard to overlook
vaginal dryness. Yeah, I agree. You know, it's painful sex is impossible to overlook,
but then people just don't have sex. Right. You know what I mean? They're like,
it's too painful. I'm done with that part of my life. No, you don't have to be.
You can still experience pleasure. You just need to get help. Let's see, things that
are overlooked in women. You know, I think it's amazing right now in the time that
we live that there's so many people talking about menopause, perimenopause, and the changes that they make in our bodies. You know, you may, you know, overlook brain fog, you know, because, but if you're driving down the street and falling asleep at the wheel, you shouldn't be ignoring brain fog because it can kill you, you know what I mean? Your neurological system is so important to be on point all the time.
And oftentimes, you know, we will ignore things like that. Like, I can't concentrate
as much as I was able to before. These are all coming from your brain. Exactly.
You know, so I think that those things are kind of easy to ignore because you're
like, oh, maybe I just didn't get enough sleep or not sleeping well. You know,
that's something that I think people might ignore and like, oh, well, you know, I
just don't sleep good. No, why don't you sleep good? What is it about your body
that's waking you up in the middle of the night and not allowing you to fall back
asleep. So that's something I think that could be easily ignored too, but is totally
a symptom of perimenopause and menopause. So I guess you would say in midlife, some women may feel like, okay, our best sexual days are behind us. Oh, no. We're at that point. We're too old. We're getting old. Some may say. What would you say to someone who feels that way? Like how how would you address them to become more confident sexually, to get more comfortable with themselves, and to, I guess, reprogram and learn again that, yes, they can have big, clear energy to just like the 20 -somethings. I feel like as you get older, you naturally sort of let go of
all the hangups that you have about your body. As time goes on, you're like, this
is me. And I accept myself. And I think that that is something that happens
naturally to women, and then they get to the point where they just don't give a
fuck, you know? And that is another thing that I think is really helpful to
embrace, because you need to be able to stop the people pleasing and,
you know, embrace your body, whatever it looks like today.
And your body is very pliable. It can change. You know, it's not the same as it
was yesterday. It's not the same as it's going to be tomorrow. You can get in the
best shape of your life if you want to at any age. But embracing your body,
I think, is essential, loving your body at any size. So, you know, I just finished
going through menopause. You know, I finally no longer get my period. And with that comes, you know, a weight gain that suddenly happens when you're like not looking, you blink and the next thing you know, you're a different size, you know? But what
about my body do I love now that, you know, wasn't there before? And those curves can be really beautiful, you know? I was never a double D in my whole life and now I am, you know what I mean? And that's kind of fun, you know? It's kind of
fun to have boobs when you never had them before. So, you know, loving your body at any size, figuring out what those things are in your body that you love now and embracing yourself at any size is important. I also think it's really important to
create an ambiance so that you feel sexy. Because if you're always in your like,
you know, pajamas that you wear like every night and they're like got, they have
holes in them and whatever, you're never making yourself feel super sexy. So like
investing in lingerie, investing in lighting for your room, that, you know,
when you turn it on and you look in the mirror, you're like, wow, I'm hot, you
know. Investing in music, making sure that you have candles and you put perfume on, all of those things are going to make you ready and more in touch with your
feminine energy and your feminine power and your creative power. Yeah, I was going to ask, that was going to be my next question, like what or some daily or weekly practices that, you know, women can do to kind of get there. Yes. And, you know, putting up on your mirror some things that you want to tell yourself every day, you know, whatever that is for you. Like everybody, words are so powerful. People don't give words enough credit, but words are so powerful. And if you're telling yourself every day, you're so fucking beautiful, you know, eventually you're going to start believing that in your cellular level. You know what I mean? It's going to become part of you. So whatever the words are that you want to tell yourself, put it up on your mirror. And when you are brushing your teeth, tell yourself those
things. And, you know, you will gain confidence. What's that age group of patients
that you see, like, the age range of patients that come here off?
So I've had, you know, patients in my 20s who have gone through cancer treatments that, you know, now are in menopause and need, you know, therapy all the way through 70s, you know. I've had men come to me in their 70s that are now in a new relationship and, hey, they want their penis to work just as good as it did
before because they want to please their new partner. Right. So now they have, like, a newfound interest in, like, getting their function back. And so really, you know, I treat adults, but 20s to however long, you know, people want to come and see me.
I asked about the age because do you ever get, like, maybe non -traditional sexual
questions while in the therapy, like some kind of weird? Yes.
Kinky. Yes. I do. And I shut it down. Okay. Because, you know, this is my professional practice. Right. And you need to treat me like a professional. And so I shut that down. I don't engage in those conversations with anybody. You have to have boundaries. Right. Boundaries are important for everybody. And I have a lot of boundaries around my practice so that I can keep it professional. Does it happen often or? It's happened quite a few times, especially with men. Right.
Who, you know, of course, they always ask, oh, do you do massage? No, I don't.
I'm not a massage therapist.
Oh, my goodness. So, yeah, so always get a lot of questions. I was watching a,
um, a documentary and it had to do with, um, sexual health and pleasuring and all
that. There was someone on there that mentioned that they had never, and mind you, she was, she was older. I believe she was probably like in her like late 30s,
early 40s, that she had never had an orgasm, which I know we talked about that
gap. What is something that you would recommend for someone that's never experienced an orgasm? Like, how can they help themselves get their body ready for pleasure?
So I think it's so essential for women and men, but particularly women,
to have a solo sex practice to masturbate on a regular basis and to know your own
body. Because if you don't know your own body, you're never going to be able to
translate that information to the bedroom, you have to know how you orgasm on your own. That is essential. So when you enter a relationship, you should not stop your relationship with yourself. You should always maintain a solo sex practice with
yourself. I think that is really, really important. And so one of the things that I
do recommend is I give my patient's homework. Go masturbate. Let's go shopping. Let's go to the toy store and let's buy some fun things that you want to try. Let's see which vibrator can help you to get there because there's so many different kinds and you're never going to know which one works for you unless you try some out. And so, you know, for people that don't want to go to a sex toy store because it's too embarrassing or whatever, I do have on my website pleaseme .online a full toy store and I have lots of things that I love on there. And so definitely recommend masturbation and trying some vibration, trying some toys, trying some dildos, trying some things that you've never tried before. You know, sometimes that's the magic ticket. And when you have the magic ticket, you can always have an orgasm, whether you're by yourself or with your partner because you just need to introduce that magic ticket to the bedroom. And that's a whole other conversation. I think some men are intimidated by that. But really, it's their best friend. If they want to pleasure their partner and they know that this can help and they can watch and they can be part of the action, I think that's a huge turn on for men too. Yeah, it could be. And some get a little, I don't know if you want to say offended is the word or intimidated because they're like, are you replacing? Are you replacing me with your toys? What's going on here? And that's all on them. It has nothing to do with you. That's their insecurities. And so you have to, you know, sometimes mollify them and say, no, I'm not replacing you. I just want to experience the same amount of pleasure that you do. You get to have an orgasm. I want to have one too. And I've found that this helps me. 95 % of women need external clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. And we are taught in every movie In every, you know, scene about sex, that penetration is the gold standard. And women don't necessarily orgasm from penetration. It can feel good, but we need external clitoral stimulation, right? So the combination of the two can be amazing. But if you are skipping the external clitoral stimulation, you are most likely skipping an orgasm because only 3 to 5 % of women can orgasm from penetration alone. And porn does not help that.
And porn. And porn. Most of porn, and you know, there are some women created porn sites, but you have to pay for them. The free porn that you get is always male
-centered pleasure that you're seeing. You're seeing the man get a, you know, blowjob, and you're seeing the man, you know, penetrate from whatever angle they want, but you're rarely seeing the woman use a vibrator on themselves while the man is penetrating or even touch their clitoris when the man is penetrating. Why not? Why not reach down and give yourself some pleasure too? Like it doesn't make sense to me, but women do need to advocate for themselves and say, this is what feels good to me and this is what I want, you know, and not be shy, because I think being shy is doing a disservice to yourself. We all deserve love and pleasure.
That's important, though, because, you know, it's not a comfortable conversation for most women to have. So we kind of got to get out of that, you know, mindset where it's not okay to talk about. Yeah, it's okay to talk about because, you know, I
want to, I want to get pleasure and I want to you're experiencing as well. Because
it's, if you think about it, it's so easy for the male to have an orgasm. It's
like one, two, three, boom. You can have an orgasm. Yep. You don't, there's not
much that has to go on there for that to happen to them. But for women, you got
to put in the work. You have to put in the work. You have to put in the work.
What's really amazing and interesting to me is the statistic that when I realized
that when men masturbate alone, and when women masturbate alone, they take around the same amount of time to get to orgasm. It's like less than five minutes, both for men and women. We're not talking about all this time, right? The thing is that you know where to touch yourself, right? You know exactly where to touch yourself, and you can get there pretty quickly. And so in penetrative sex, women need 20 to 25 minutes of warm up before they're ready for penetrative sex because the vagina undergoes a transformation we're transformers okay it's pretty freaking amazing you know our vaginas are collapsed on themselves throughout the day but when you start getting turned on and you start getting prepared for penetration your your vagina actually elongates so that you can accept a penis, right? And so it's an amazing thing, but you need to give yourself time to get there. And so men need to understand that they need to warm their woman up, you know, with oral sex or with touching. And then I love to say that the entire body is an erogenous zone, not just the genitals. You don't always just have to focus on the genitals all the time. Because, you know, maybe the back of your girl's neck is going to be that spot that really gets them like super turned on or maybe it's the back of their knees or their inner thigh whatever that is explore the entire body because the entire body is an erogenous zone and when your body is when your mind i should say when your mind is processing sensual pleasure the part of your brain that lights up whether it be the back of your ear, the back of your knee, your big toe is the clitoral area of your brain. Your body is perceiving it as pleasure, as sensual pleasure. So your entire body can be a neurogenous zone. That's good to know.
I never thought about it that way. Like, I never thought about myself being a
transformer. Transformer. I like that. More than meets the eye. Exactly.
Oh, my God, that's funny. What's the wildest or most surprising benefit women have reported after getting acoustic wave therapy? Just how juicy they are,
you know, especially if they've lost that wetness and then suddenly experiencing so much wetness. You know what I mean? they're like, wow, this is amazing. I feel like I've, you know, I'm in my 20s again. You know what I mean? It's really amazing.
It's a great treatment. Also, on another note, if you have decreased sensitivity,
it also helps increase your sensitivity. So you may have felt that it's kind of
numb down there and you can't reach orgasm because it becomes numb because your sensitivity declines. and sensitivity goes with blood flow. So when you get acoustic wave therapy, you have more sensitivity afterwards, and so you feel everything even more powerfully. And so it's really amazing for that too. And just to talk about that in a way that people will understand, when a diabetic gets gangrene on their foot, for instance, it's because they can't feel that they have a cut there and so they don't realize it right and so it becomes infected and because the blood isn't flowing to their foot because they have decreased blood flow the nutrients aren't getting there to heal it and so blood flow is essential for sensitivity if you don't have sensitivity in your feet because you're a diabetic it's because of the lack of blood flow so same thing with your vagina or your penis um if you don't
have blood flow, you're going to have decreased sensitivity.

 I'm like, wait, huh? Like, these are conversations that you don't really, because they don't teach you this in sex ed. Like, they don't. No, unfortunately, sex ed is very lacking in this country, and it's a shame. And if you look at sex ed and how they do it in other countries, there are some countries in Europe that are really, really great at sex ed, and they teach it throughout the child's development, so they get a little information when they're really little, and then they get a little bit more when they get older. And they continue adding to that as they get older, what's age appropriate, right? And in those countries, there's less rape, there's less sexual assault, because there's more information. And so it really is important for society, not just for your own personal benefit, but societally, I think it's really important to get proper sex education. I agree with that. If you had a magic wand,
what's one thing you would change about how society views sex and aging? I think if there was one thing that I would change about society's role in our bodies,
it would be to eliminate shame. I think shame is so detrimental to us and we've
normalized it so much. You know, if somebody's shameful, you know,
they're doing something that you shouldn't be doing. They're behaving in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. But why? That's you that doesn't feel uncomfortable, not them. So I feel like shame is something that really is detrimental to women in particular, but men as well. So eliminating the shame around sexuality, I think that that would make such a huge difference in our world. So this has been an eye -opening conversation. But before we wrap up, we love to leave our listeners with one powerful takeaway. So Eve, if our audience remembers just one thing from today's talk, what do you think it should be? Masturbate all the time, daily if you can, and create your own self -care practice that incorporates your sensual self as well, taking baths and luxuriating in them.
I just bought this book called Moon Baths, where it gives you different recipes of
teas to put in your bath water that help you to connect with like the moon cycles
so get connected with your feminine power that is so powerful and a lot of people
are afraid of that but it's nothing to be afraid of when you connect with your
feminine you're connecting with your creative power and that's going to help you in all areas of your life so i love to help women to get that confidence and gain
that big clit energy, that's just so powerful to me. Please tell our listeners where
they can find you and how to connect with you. Absolutely. So you can go to please me .online, and many of my webinars that I've done in the past are there. So there's a lot of education. There's all of the things that we discussed. Parlor
Games is an affiliate that I have that you can get through my site, the sex toy
store, the Juice Plus, all of the things that we discussed today are all connected
to my website pleaseme .online. If you want to reach me, you can go to the contact page and you can send me a note there that goes directly to my email and I always respond to all of my emails. And also in that spot, there's all of my socials.
So if you want to follow me on social media, you can find all of my social links
right there as well. I'll make sure to then get in the show notes. Absolutely. And
I just want to celebrate that my show Please Me is now ranked number one in the
United States and globally. And that just blows my mind that I can reach so many
different countries all around the world on every continent, which I think is
unbelievable. That's amazing. And so I've been on this like celebratory,
you know, I don't know, carnival, you know, parade, you know, going from,
you know, podcast to podcast talking about my story and my products and my show. 
So please listen to my show as well. I know that if you're listening to this
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Hopefully you'll find some good those there that you'll love as well. Congratulations. That's amazing. Thank you so much. Thank you. So thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us today and breaking down a topic that so many people are curious about, but don't always feel comfortable talking about. We really appreciate you. Thank you. Thank you very much. You're welcome. And congratulations. Thank you. Thank you. And to our listeners, if you enjoyed this episode, we love it If you could take a moment to rate and review our show, your support helps us reach more listeners and keep this conversation going. And remember, ladies, always honor your body, cherish your pleasure, and listen to its whispers. In knowing yourself, you find power. In loving yourself, you find freedom. And in claiming your sexual health, you claim your whole self. Asa la Proxima. Thank you for listening. Make sure to subscribe to our show so you don't miss an episode. We will be dropping an episode every two weeks. Oh yeah. No, like seriously, subscribe now. So just chill. To the next episode. Follow us on Insta and TikTok. Hasta la proxia.